[krishanson]

Originally Posted by djnat

I respect your commitment to this I mean lets face this is a really really tough decision, most guys would be hitting their head over. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with kissing before marriage, sex is the problem though. I reckon love should come before sex, but today people want sex than love (but mostly its just sex).

But still c'mon man you're 14 you've got years and years to think about marriage, see how you feel about this in a couple of years. Take it from me you're too young to make a lifelong commitment of marriage when you're still growing.

I agree. Nothing is wrong with kissing before marriage. It was just a commitment me and her chose to do. It's not something guaranteeing us to get married. We're just sayin, as long as we are boyfriend and girlfriend, we won't kiss. But if marriage ever comes into play, after that we'll kiss. And yeah, you're very right about sex.

I know I'm only 14 but I just don't want to switch between girlfriend to girlfriend. I'd rather wait, find someone I truly have a lot of feelings for, then whatever happens happens. It's in the Lord's hands. But all I'm saying is, she's not just a girlfriend I'll go out with for a while for a temporary thing. Because having a real relationship is pointless if you think you'll probably break up. You get what I'm saying?

[FLUR]

Well if you guys are together for years and then you realize shes not the one and you guys split, your gonna regret not nailing her. Lol for real though I have alot of respect for that commitment you guys made. Im kind of in the middle, I date for both ways. Really when I start to date girls its just to get to know them and I learn if it could possible end up as love or if shes DTF and then I move on that. :lol:

[arlubas]

Originally Posted by krishanson

ha I'm Christian. And not horny. ha Well, you're going to all laugh at me but I don't care so I'll just say it, we decided to not kiss until we are married. So we can have a pure godly relationship and we'd have a lot to look forward to.
If we just go ahead and have kiss and even have sex, whats left? You've done it all right? Then you get bored and break up.
Being 14 has nothing to do with it. I don't think you're always going to get married to your girlfriend or boyfriend. I just think you should take it slow and try your hardest to stay together for as long as possible. Thats why my expectations are marriage.

If you don't kiss or have sex or any of that then you're best friends, not a couple. I agree with you not wanting to have sex yet, it's your decision but c'mon now, no kissing? :WTF:

Oh and here's another thought: what if you do end up getting married and start having sex afterwards and one of the two realises the other is seriously lousy in bed and just doesn't like him? What's next, a lifelong misery on your sex life?

[Sixto Freed]

Originally Posted by arlubas

If you don't kiss or have sex or any of that then you're best friends, not a couple. I agree with you not wanting to have sex yet, it's your decision but c'mon now, no kissing? :WTF:

Oh and here's another thought: what if you do end up getting married and start having sex afterwards and one of the two realises the other is seriously lousy in bed and just doesn't like him? What's next, a lifelong misery on your sex life?

word...

i mean, it's ok to limit yourself in the private aspect and not having too much sex and enjoying other aspects, but no kissing? that's a sign of love too, of feeling happy with your couple

[DeAdLyPoTaTo]

gonna be 30 and getting your first kiss :lol:

your little girlfriend you have now probably won't even be with you when you mature into an adult capable of marriage. So you gon be a middle aged guy with virgin lips. Guys are supposed to be the experienced ones

[djnat]

Originally Posted by DeAdLyPoTaTo

Guys are supposed to be the experienced ones

And girls are supposed to be inexperienced? In that case where do guys get their experience from???

Reminds me of this study where people said how many sexual partner they had, and guys on average said they had like 8-10 and girls said 4-6. Wonder how that's supposed to work lol.

[event_staff_9]

do whatever you want just dont be naive about the future and dont get too attached; simple philosophy, harder in practice haha

[krishanson]

Originally Posted by DeAdLyPoTaTo

gonna be 30 and getting your first kiss :lol:

your little girlfriend you have now probably won't even be with you when you mature into an adult capable of marriage. So you gon be a middle aged guy with virgin lips. Guys are supposed to be the experienced ones

Think about it like this... (I'm not trying to be perverted in anyway)
You (I don't literally mean you) go and have sex out of marriage. To have sex, you gotta go the a night club and beg and plead a ugly hoodrat so you can have meaningless sex and have a kid you didn't want. Or maybe a disease you didn't want.

Me on the other hand, I can be happily married and have sex with my wife any night of the week. Or could be morning, lunch, whatever. The option is there. And I can have children WITH my wife and be a committed father and raise my kids to be Men of God. Or Women of God. whichever happens. And I could look my wife in the eyes and honestly say, I saved this for you and only you.

Which would you rather have? I don't know about you but I like the 2nd option.

[DeAdLyPoTaTo]

Originally Posted by krishanson

Think about it like this... (I'm not trying to be perverted in anyway)
You (I don't literally mean you) go and have sex out of marriage. To have sex, you gotta go the a night club and beg and plead a ugly hoodrat so you can have meaningless sex and have a kid you didn't want. Or maybe a disease you didn't want.

Me on the other hand, I can be happily married and have sex with my wife any night of the week. Or could be morning, lunch, whatever. The option is there. And I can have children WITH my wife and be a committed father and raise my kids to be Men of God. Or Women of God. whichever happens. And I could look my wife in the eyes and honestly say, I saved this for you and only you.

Which would you rather have? I don't know about you but I like the 2nd option.

Well I was raised on Disney movies so I kinda have a little romanticized part of me. So I don't go chasing around ***** like it some sort of trophy the way us guys are supposed to, and though I am fully aware that at 17 I don't know what love truly is, I'd rather have that instead of playing the stupid "game".

When it comes to kissing though, its not really a big deal. And I don't say that because "everybody else does it".

Event_staff said it right


and djnat, the answer is......

practice? :dunno:
p0rnos? :dunno:

[krishanson]

Yeah, well, if playing that game takes what it takes... Fine.
In fact, if I never get married, I'll never have sex. I'd rather do whats morally right and pleasing to God then do something for my own pleasure.